Single on Valentine’s Day

Single on Valentine’s Day?

As with so many, my relationship history started in middle school before I even began to date. Including an engagement, I’ve only had a few serious relationships. Sure I’ve been on some dates here and there, but even that has been infrequent. Still, there is an amazing part of the story. Being single has allowed me time to become healthier emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Through the years, I have come to accept and enjoy the season God has me in. It’s an amazing feeling to not let my relationship status define me and my only regret is not getting to this place sooner! I would love to share a few things with you that I have learned. I want you to know that I don’t have all the answers. I’m just like you walking through this life and learning as I go. But, I pray that you will be encouraged by what I can share with you today.

1) You are loved, regardless of your relationship status. 
Have you ever battled thoughts of feeling like you’re not good enough, attractive enough, or interesting enough?  Friends, those thoughts do not come from your heavenly father. You can replace those lies with the truth we find in scripture. You are loved by God. He sent his son to die on a cross, to take your sins on himself, and redeem your soul because he loves you. He did that over 2,000 years ago, knowing full well that you would be single today. All you need to do is accept him as your savior and accept his gift of love for you. Remember, no one will ever love you like the Lord does!

John 3:16-17
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

2) It’s better to be single than to be in the wrong relationship 
Maybe you’ve been in a relationship before, or even now, that you know deep down isn’t quite right. I’ve been there too. Maybe you make excuses for your significant other and constantly find yourself defending that person to your family and friends. Perhaps you have even lost some friendships over it. God gave us the responsibility to make our own life choices. But, remember what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 10:23, “23 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.” I will say that my time of intentional singleness has been much more beneficial and constructive than being in a relationship I knew wasn’t good for my spiritual health.
3) Singleness is a gift
I know, it sounds crazy but it’s true! Both singleness and marriage are gifts from God. How do you know if you have the gift of singleness? Pastor JP says it like this, “did you wake up this morning single? Then you have the gift of singleness”. (Jonathan Pokluda - Heart of Dating Conference) The season can last a little while, many years, decades, or your whole life but for right now you are gifted with singleness. Use the time you have to dive deeper into your relationship with God. Read your bible, talk to wise godly people who can guide you, pray, and then pray some more. Work to become a person who is fully devoted to the Lord.
I pray you will fully accept the love of God, regardless of your relationship status, and that you will learn to love the gift of singleness. God knows literally everything. He loves you and has a plan for you. I pray you lean on him and learn to walk in the purpose he has for you.

Romans 8:28
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."


Meli - February 21st, 2021 at 7:37pm

This was beautifully written. Thanks Jen!

Susan DiVito - March 11th, 2021 at 7:37pm

Very nicely written